When a man dies, his deeds come to a stop, but three things remain: ongoing generosity, knowledge (through which people gain), and a devout son who prays for him (for the deceased).
Making dua for the departed is the most essential thing we can do. Our never-ending prayers, duas, and remembrances for the deceased will be of value to them.
“My mother died unexpectedly, and I believe that if she could talk, she would have donated in charity,” a man stated to the Prophet, according to another hadith narrated by ‘Aisha. “May I make a donation on her behalf?” “Yes!” he exclaimed. Donate to charity in her honor.”
Upon Hearing the news of someone who just passed away:
رَٰجِعُونَ إِلَيْهِ وَإِنَّآ لِلَّهِ إِنَّا
Translation: “Indeed, we belong to Allah, and we will return to Him.”
This is ayah 156 of Surah Baqarah, which Allah advises people to recite when tragedy hits.
Translation: O Allah, pardon [name of the individual] and raise his status among the guided. Send him on his way in the footsteps of those who have gone before him, and pardon us and him, O Lord of the Worlds. Enlarge his grave for him and shine light on him in it.
Death is painful, and we all cope in different ways. There are no rights or incorrect answers since every one of us has a unique emotional response. There are, however, healthy measures that may be taken.
Although it is typical advice to be “strong,” realize that sobbing or feeling vulnerable is a perfectly acceptable reaction to the circumstance. You shouldn’t be ashamed of yourself for suppressing this emotion or thinking of yourself as weak for doing so. The adult thing to do is to be aware of and acknowledge your grief, as well as to seek help from those who care about you. Remember to look for yourself and be physically active. It’s excellent for you to get some sun, exercise, and sleep.
Understand that pain stems from the belief that you have lost something. Instead, be happy for the opportunities you had to interact with the individual. We are egotistical individuals that desire only the good aspects of life. But keep in mind that you can’t have love without also experiencing suffering. It’s all about yin and yang. Rather of being sad about what was, celebrate and appreciate the memories.
Remember that remembering the deceased in your duas and prayers is one of the finest methods to benefit him. You can even fast and donate to charity in their honor.
Inshallah, Allah knows best, and we will all be reunited in Jannah, where we will once again see each other.
